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my bf's black--he won't tell people at school about us

does my tomboy style drive him away?

my boyfriend's ex still likes him

she has a crush on me

how do you get over someone?

we like the same guy

she only talks about her boyfriend

i'm white, but i'm dating a black guy

french kissing is gross...

i'm the other woman...

moody boyfriend...

we start dating, i lose interest...

i'm crushing on my gay friend...

my friend's boyfriend likes me...

i'm in love with two people...

if a guy asks me to dance, how do i say no?

i like him but he's a player...

i think my boyfriend's cheating...

mom thinks my homecoming date is ugly...

we're friends with benefits but i love him

i like my friend's boyfriend.

what should i get my bf for xmas?

my bf got another girl pregnant...

he asked another girl to prom.

my boyfriend isn't cute.

is he flirting or making fun of me?

i really like my best friend

my boyfriend wants to read my diary

my boyfriend never calls me

i'm 16 and i've NEVER had a boyfriend

how do you stay friends?

my boyfriend only wants to hang out with his friends...

i am tired of being single...

he really has changed but nobody else sees it...

he says if i loved him i would have sex...

i'm scared he's cheating on me.

i have a hard time talking to guys.

i have a hard time talking to guys.

i am in love with my best friend's boyfriend.

my boyfriend doesn't want to talk to me in public.

i don't have the same feelings for him anymore.

should i make a move on my crush?

how do I know if i'm in love?

my friend doesn't know i like her brother.

my boyfriend has a problem with overweight girls.

my boyfriend's family is extremely poor.

my boyfriend is ready to have sex but i'm not.

he's been talking to his ex-girlfriend.

why are guys only interested in non-opinionated girls?

my boyfriend doesn't trust me.

i'm 16 and engaged.

my best friend and my boyfriend can't stand one another.

i like someone two years younger than me.

my boyfriend is really moody and takes his anger out on me.

i think my boyfriend's best friend is trying to break us up.

how can i stop being unfaithful and stick with one guy?

i'm a christian but my boyfriend doesn't even believe in god.

what are the pros and cons of waiting to have sex?

how do i gain back my boyfriend's trust?

i am in love with my brother's best friend.

i like this guy, but he's four years older than me and lives 600 miles away.

my boyfriend's going to college and i'm worried about our relationship.

i really like this guy but he has a baby.

my boyfriend tells his best friend EVERYTHING about our relationship.

my boyfriend never wants to hang out with just me.

my boyfriend's best friend is a girl. they spend a lot of time together and i hate it.

i'm dating this guy that everyone says has an STD. how can i be sure that he's clean?

my crush only sees me as a little kid. how can i get him to notice me?

my boyfriend cheated on me and i can't get over it.

i don't have feelings for my boyfriend. should i end the relationship?

i don't believe in premarital sex but the guys i like don't share the same beliefs. what should i do?

my boyfriend gets mad at me when i talk or hang out with my guy friends. what should i do?

my boyfriend doesn't do anything special for me. i just want to feel more love...

i love my boyfriend, but i don't know how to tell him. should i wait for him to say it first?

my boyfriend is going to his ex-girlfriend's birthday party. i'm afraid they'll make a drunken mistake.

the butterflies i used to get around my boyfriend have gone away. is this a bad sign?

how do i break up with my boyfriend without hurting him?

my boyfriend is moving way too slow. how can i speed things up?

my boyfriend refuses to meet my parents and now my family dislikes him.

my boyfriend said if i want him to remember me i should have sex with him.

my boyfriend has been mean to me ever since his grandfather died.

i want my girlfriend to tell her parents she's gay.

my boyfriend's mom wants me to go on birth control, but i don't think i want to.

my boyfriend wants to take a break because i don't believe in god.


My best friend and my boyfriend used to be friends but now that we are dating they can't stand to be around each other. They "take turns" hanging out with me.

I spend Friday with my boyfriend and Saturday with my other friend. At first it worked out okay, but now I'm getting sick of it. Before, we could all hang out together and we had lots of fun. I've asked them if they could just try, and they have, it just never works out. I'm tired of this, but I don't want to lose either one of them. I don't know what to do.

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    Talk To Them
    I think that if you love them both very much and really want them to get along, ask them to talk separately. Ask them what they don't like about each other and then explain to them what is going on.

Tell them you love and care for them both and that you need them to get along for your stress level's sake. Just don't let them make you decide between them.
    --Posted by suicide_is_4me
    03:41PM EST 03/19/07


    
    
    Honestly, I know how you feel! I think that if you love them both very much and really want them to get along then ask them to talk separately, ask them what they don't like about each other. Explain to them that you love and care for them both and that you need them to get along for your stress levels stake. That's about the best I can tell you. I wish I could tell you more. Just don't let them make you decide between them!
    --Posted by suicide_is_4me
    03:41PM EST 03/19/07


    
    Jealousy, Maybe?
    I think that both of them are jealous of the other, which shows that they care about you. Your boyfriend is jealous of your best friend, and your best friend is jealous of the boyfriend. They probably just don't want to share you. I think, when it really comes down to it you HAVE to make a decision. I'd dump the boyfriend. Best friends are forever-- boyfriends are temporary. I've been in a similar situation and the boy who hated my friends was a scumbag. Maybe he's not meant for you after all.
    --Posted by chyomommax
    08:09AM EST 03/18/07


    
    
    Quite a sticky situation. I think they're both afraid of losing you. You need to tell them if they can't put they're differences aside and try to get along, then you're done with both of them. It seems harsh, but they'll get the point.

Try to set up a conversation between them to get all the bad feelings out. They might discover how trivial they're being.
    --Posted by whatever_it_is
    06:59PM EST 03/17/07


    
    
    What exactly don't they like about each other? If they were getting along before why all of a sudden can't they now? Talk to both of them and find out what's going on.

It's nice to spend time with your friends and your boyfriend, but you don't want to do that all the time. Sometimes spending days apart is a good thing.
    --Posted by hislilarmybrat
    03:15AM EST 03/17/07



    
    
    No, you cant just "forget'" about your boyfriend. That's just taking the easy way out, which may not leave many people happy--especially you. Perhaps on weekdays (after homework and such) you and your boyfriend can hang out, and once Friday and Saturday come around, spend that time with your best friend. But you can't just forget about your boyfriend, unless he's not worth trying to resolve this conflict.
    --Posted by exit.here
    01:40AM EST 03/17/07


    
    I'm Same.
    Martina is right: they hate to share you. They feel like, "she likes her boyfriend more," or "her friend is so much more important to her."

Next time you see them fight just say, "you guys both mean so much to me. I love you both please stop fighting." Then, try hanging with both at the same time.
    --Posted by mrs._rocker
    04:52PM EST 03/16/07


    
    Sounds Like Jealousy To Me...
    It almost seems like they might be jealous of each other! Maybe your best friend resents your boyfriend because he takes up time that used to be reserved for your friend. And, maybe your boyfriend is mad because he wants to be the most important thing in your life.

It sounds like both of them love you, and maybe they just don't like sharing you. If this is the case, you need to show both of them how special they are to you, and why the other person is also special. Hopefully you can show your best friend what you see in your boyfriend, and vice versa.
    --Posted by martinamartina
    04:17PM EST 03/16/07


    
    
    You need to forget about your so-called boyfriend because if he was a true boyfriend he wouldn't care about your best friend. Your best friend has been there for a long period of time when boyfriends are just temporary....
    --Posted by przsexygreeneyes
    09:59AM EST 03/16/07

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