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OMG!!
I know that the key to a good relationship is honesty and openess but your boyfriend should be secure enough in himself and your relationship to allow you to have private thoughts. A girl's diary is not some kind of article but instead a refelection of her emotions and thoughts at that previous time in her life. What kind of pleasure could he get from reading it? I'm sure him reading it would be follwed by a bunch of questions that you may not want to answer.
--Posted by beeachalah
09:55PM EST 07/13/05
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Compromise
My ex and I had the same fight, so to compromise I read out loud to him a few special entries-- like the one after our first date, our first kiss, our one year anniversary, etc. This gave him some idea of what I wrote, but didn't let him read every little detail. This was a great compromise to us. It let him see that I loved him and it let me keep my privacy. Good luck.
ELiza
--Posted by willowkat14
03:06PM EST 07/13/05
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Just tell him how you feel about the situation. If he cares about you enough, then he'll back off.
--Posted by Xnikki_sixx17
11:13PM EST 07/12/05
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Don't let him
I know it may be hard for him to comprehend that you dont want him to read it but you must keep pressing the matter. Tell him that it is your private place and that you dont want any one to read it. Don't back off.
--Posted by distantchimera
02:52AM EST 07/12/05
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First off, I don't really get why he wants to read your diary...insecure maybe? Wants to read some drawl about himself. That's cool and all but honestly, a girl's got to have some privacy! I adopted the livejounal approach, where people who want to read my diary can, but I also have privacy settings so that things that are just not for other people to read are locked up. There are some risks to that--I mean it's out there on the net. Just an idea...
But what I think you should do is go to your boy and say something along the lines of, "Listen sweetie, I hate fighting with you so I just said you could read it to make the fighting stop. I really feel uncomfortable with you reading my personal and private thoughts. If and when I am ready to share my feelings with you we can talk about them. I'd rather talk about them with you than have you reading my diary." How's that sound? If he still doesnt get it, the guy's a loser, sorry. I have no leniency for lack of privacy. It can lead to much worse things...
--Posted by peskypisky
10:44PM EST 07/11/05
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Tell him you trust him...
and that you like him a lot. That you love discussing things with him but you need a place to dicuss things with yourself and a diary gives you just that. Make sure you let him know you aren't hiding anything from him but tell him your diary is personal to you. And don't let your future bfs know you keep a diary ;-)
--Posted by lilsweetie2400
07:48PM EST 07/11/05
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It's yours, so keep it that way.
A diary is sacred. It's the one place where you can say anything you want and not be judged, not listen to opinions, not worry about anyone finding out what you think. It's something that I personally don't show ANYONE. This is your own private way of keeping your thoughts together, no matter what your boyfriend says. If you don't want him to read it, you need to explain that to him.
--Posted by lostinlymbo
11:49AM EST 07/11/05
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Well...
Ask him if you could look at something he doesn't want people to see and guess what his answer would be. Tell him how you feel--not from your mind but from your heart--if he gets mad about it, then he's just not worth it.
--Posted by italiansweetpea
09:51AM EST 07/10/05
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