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I think my friend's boyfriend likes me. He is always trying to flirt with me and he always finds a way to touch me. I don't like him at all and I don't know what to do. He won't leave me alone.

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28 member responses

    
    talk to him
    I think you should just talk to him face to face. He really shouldn't be doing this to you...especially since he is dating your friend. If he still doesn't stop then you'll have to go to your friend and tell her what's been going on...but if you only think this is happening then you should really find out first what's really going on--before you make up your mind about what's going on and yelling at him for something he might not be doing in the first place.
    --Posted by CryzSweetTears4
    10:46PM EST 07/13/04


    
    LET HIM KNOW
    I was in that situation about two years ago. But my friend was married to this guy when he wrote a letter to me telling me that he liked me. Well I did what I had to do. I told him that I wasn't interested and that if he even thought about trying me again I would tell my friend. And from that day on we were alright with each other. He never tried to hit on me again. I didn't tell my friend because I didn't want to break her heart. But the best thing for you to do is to let him know how you feel and if he doesn't want to listen tell your friend. She deserves better!
    --Posted by keshia19
    01:42PM EST 07/13/04


    
    tell him
    Just tell him to stop. Say you're uncomfortable with him. If he continues, tell your friend and have her try to talk to him to get him to stop. If he still doesn't stop, take it to another level. It's not right for him to be doing this to you. I went through somthing like this. I just told my friend and I ignored him. He eventually got the picture and baked off.
    --Posted by ghettosouthgurl
    11:46AM EST 07/13/04


    
    To do or not to do...
    The chances are, if you tell your friend, that she won't believe you, especially if she really likes him. You can try of course, if you want to risk that. Tell her boyfriend that as long as he's with your friend, that there is no chance with you. He'll probably break up with her to date you then, and if he asks you out, turn him down. Your friend may be mad at first, but you'd really save her from dating someone so ignorant.
    --Posted by LWCsquirt
    04:03AM EST 07/13/04


    
    double check
    I know you are hearing this a thousand times and more but seriously talk to him about it. Make sure that he isn't just having crazy feelings about your friend and you that some how got you two mixed up. Also about the whole touching and flirting thing the next time he tries to make a move, if you can tell him that you aren't comfortable with it or just move away and ignore it. That should give him a pretty good hint don't you think so? Don't forget about your friend either--she has a right to know. But make sure that he is really interested in you before you jump to conclusions.
    --Posted by sowutifiloveyou
    03:15AM EST 07/13/04



    
    I know what you mean
    My best friend's boy friend started flirting with me too. It happens to almost all gurls. He tried to hold my hand when I went to the store with him while she stayed home. The only reason I even went was because she asked me too so he wouldn't forget anything. Well I didn't mind him holding my hand--I thought maybe he did it thinking it was her. Then he started trying to kiss me and that's when I got all scared. The final straw was when he asked if I would sleep with him; that's when I told her and they spilt up. I regret not telling her soon enough but I'm glad i did. So my advice is that you should confront them both in front of each other so you can hear what they have to say about the whole ordeal.
    --Posted by endlesstears101
    08:42PM EST 07/12/04


    
    Don't be vain
    Try as hard as possible to not let your friend know, but try to let her bf know. But if he doesn't stop even when you talk to him or give him signs, you should tell your friend. Try to tell her in a way that won't sound like you are better than her or something. Either way she will probably be a little angry at you because the one she likes likes you, even if her feelings are unfair because you didn't mean for it to happen. LOL...I know what some of my friends would say...Why don't you just hit it off with him? But I really don't think that's a good idea...lol.
    --Posted by biddyboom
    06:38PM EST 07/12/04


    
    Been there b4!!
    I once was liked my by my best friend's boyfriend and I told her what was up. They talked about it and worked it out and came to find out he didn't like me--he was just being nice and his being nice was a different way than I was expecting. So just talk to her and she can find out what's up with him and he may just be playing around, but you never know!! Good Luck!
    --Posted by nykki25_08
    02:12PM EST 07/12/04

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